Joan Rivers has passed away today at the age of 81. She was absolutely a controversial figure, especially with some of the statements she’s made in the last year, and I can’t say I always liked her sense of humor. Fashion Police is one of the only guilty pleasures that I actually feel guilty about because — while I won’t deny enjoying a certain level of cattiness and mockery of ugly, rich clothes — I found a lot of her jokes, particularly her body-shaming ones, to be pretty infuriating.

Still, Joan Rivers could be awfully funny, and she was a pioneering woman who opened up a lot of doors for female comedians. I’ve been getting a kick out of watching some of her early work from long before I was born.

I know there are a lot of people out there with strong feelings against Joan Rivers, and that’s fine, I understand that, but let’s try to be respectful anyway, okay? Yes, even if she wouldn’t have been.

Be the bigger person, just today. It’s what you do when people die.